the saddest people in the world club

This post is going to have a bit of a sadder undertone because I've been thinking about this a lot recently and just really want to express my thoughts on this new 'fashion' of being sad.

Sometimes I find myself thinking about all that's going on in the world and my position within it all. I mean this in the sense that my emotions are sometimes so disconnected to what's going on in other countries and vice versa. It's when I'm thinking about this that I tend to completely disregard my own feelings about boys or school or money as being stupid because there are people all over the world who don't have the luxury of going to school or are forced into marriage with someone abusive and while I'm complaining about having no money to pay for my clothing addiction, millions around the world don't have enough money for food. But this complete disregard of my feelings as being stupid can be just as toxic as disregarding the reality of the world because you're so trapped in your own world. I mean this in terms of, if your melodramatic problems are problem enough to make you sad then you should work to make yourself happy and not downplaying your emotions as stupid. 

At the same time though, my dad died in 2010 and I spent a solid year disregarding everyone around me's 'issues' because they hadn't suffered the heartbreak of losing a parent to the point where they didn't deserve to be sad. This supposed right to be sad is this stupid thing manifested by angsty people to further exile themselves from the world they're physically part of. It's almost turned into this elitist club of the saddest people in the world, and for a while I actually craved acceptance into this club. It seems so romantic to be sitting in a cafe with your sad friends, drinking coffee and smoking non stop whilst listening to 70's punk and dwelling on how sad you are and how the regular society really just don't 'get you.'

It's this idea that sadness pervades mystery and boys love mysterious girls who need rescuing. But in reality the only one who can do the rescuing is the victim themselves. Once we establish what our feelings actually are it's a lot easier to accept who we are and what we're worth. The problem is once people lose their self worth they're on a path leading to loss of oneself entirely, which is the point in which in your own eyes at least, you can become president of the saddest people in the world club.

It's a this point where I need to make a particular comment, nobody can be the judge of how someone feels or reacts to a particular event or situation. Even when, in your own eyes you've felt all the sadness in the world and know what it's like you still don't have the right to comment on how petty it is for someone to be crying over a boy who doesn't like them. I've been in both situations and I can tell you they both suck and so if they want to cry over boys or girls for that matter they are allowed to.  

I'll conclude with the following points

• You don't have the right to judge ANYONE on their emotions
• Being sad and losing all self worth is not fun and it needs to stop being romanticised
• Smoking causes lung cancer: not romantic when you're dead.
• Coffee is delightful but to excess can cause many issues
• Feel sad if you want, feel happy if you want, but feel how you really feel, don't do anything because it's cool.

So after this very serious post I'll be writing a post on fashion very shortly.

Liv xo